
mlm discouragement
In any home based business, it is easy to get discouraged. It is easy to walk away.
Yes this is a simple business, but maybe not easy at times. Everyone goes through the stages of doubt and not sure this is for you.
Been there and done that.
But the question today needs to be asked:
Feel Like Giving UP?
As a Leader in your home business company, you are going to find there are times that you and your folks can get a little discouraged, or in some instances, a lot discouraged, and that requires what we at DFTI call “Discouragement Management”.
You MUST be able to get your team and people as well as yourself back on track and out of the slack.
How do you do that?
It starts with an understanding of what discouragement really is, and what creates it, and then what to do to get rid of it, and ALL Leaders need to know this.
First off, discouragement is simply an emotion that replaces courage, or the will to continue.
And just like the words displace, distrust, or dislike, this emotion creates the opposite of what once was..it is the Silent, Deadly Thief in a Distributors life, and you must know how to handle it in your home business.
There are basically 5 things that create discouragement in this business, and all else revolves around them:
1) Questioning yourself.
All discouragement starts with questioning yourself, consciously, or subconsciously..those deadly words -”Can I really Do this?” and it echoes in their heart.
2) Lack of Results.
This is a biggie. You can eject yourself from this business with no results. And this starts with questioning you, which sabotages your actions, which cripples your results.
3) Expectations too high.
This is done almost daily in this home business profession.The new person does not yet have the skill set to build a million dollar business, but expects to, and when it does not happen quickly, they think they cannot do this business.
4) Listening to the Wrong People.
This can discourage quickly, as people that the new distributor knows becomes negative and the distributor is not
inoculated to fend off the arrows. (This is a Must!)
5) Loss of a Vision OnFire.
People do this home business professions to Increase, Empower, or Improve something in their life. All Leaders know this. After you have been in a while, you can lose the Fire for your Vision, because slowly, silently, Doubt has crept in, created by distractions, or Lack of Focus, or lack of Empowering Relationships…growing into a Discouragement Tumor, then Cancer.
ok….What can we do to battle this?
1) First off, understand that most Discouragement is caused by Set Backs in the Distributors Heart.
What can create these Set Backs? We have found that most of these in home business are caused by one thing:
Communication Errors.
We get paid to do one thing –Communicate with people! And when Set Backs happen, most can be traced to the communication power (or lack of it) in the new person’s effort.
Sit down with the new person, (or your upline if you are down and out), and walk through the Prospecting with them to see if they have enough folks to talk to.
Go through how they are contacting people and listen live as they do it to see where the breakdown is. Take notes. Listen to their Presentation, and see where the breakdown is, as well as the Getting the Decision, and handling objections.
Somewhere in there, you will find the problem, I promise. Whether it is too weak communication, non-conviction communication, lack of enough communication, too much communication, or too strong communication, you will find the glitch.
And do not forget the “inner communication” within ourselves as we speak to others…If that is negative, so goes the appointment.
2) Have Home Office call the Down Distributor (someone of notoriety) and chat with the distributor to encourage them.
A little ‘Special Attention” has refired many down folks into SuccessInfernos! Also have a Top Earner call them as well and tell the Distributor about their own hard times and challenges..
3) Micro-Event a day.
What is that? Sit down with the new distributor, and make a list of easy, small actions you KNOW will be successful ( 5 phone calls, 5 letters out, 5 new prospects, etc) and celebrate their efforts and small successes. They MUST get back to
expecting Success, no matter how small, through micro-events.
4) Say the 4 Power Words.
Over and Over and Over, say the Most Powerful Words In Downline Building..
I BELIEVE IN YOU! (Do you know how long it has been for most people since they have heard those words? Usually it has been YEARS!
This is what we call home business “Battered Heart First Aid”.
WARNING: Some folks will become discouraged and when you try to help, will become almost co-dependent.
Always say ‘I cannot and will not do this Business For You, for that would cripple you. So I need to find out what is wrong, and correct it..so you can do this in a more Powerful Way..”
So In Summary — Special Attention, Focus on the Process, and Ignite their Hearts with the 4 Power Words.
Discouragement Managementis Imperative in this Business, as all Entrepreneurial Ventures. Take the time to ReEmpower the individual, and to ReFire them for Success with the above Suggestions.
And all you need to say to radically change their paradigm, is say and throw the “Discouragement Grenade: “I believe in you, and I see Great things in you, you dont even know they are there. LEAN ON MY BELIEF while we go through this valley, and I promise you, we WILL get through this, because as a Leader, I believe in the A.D.I.T. Principle..”All Discouragement Is Temporary”…and you and I are in this For PERMANENT Results! Now this is what we are going to do First…”
These words alone will ignite a fire that will burn bright and not go out. And if discouragement comes again you know what you must say and do for Success in your mlm network marketing home business.
Create a Prospecting Hurrucane of leads by doing this!
blessings…doug firebaugh
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Home Business Training-What EXACTLY To Say to a Negative Prospect?
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Prospects of a home business in mlm can say the darndest things. That reminds me of a kid’s show a while back, “Kids can say the Darndest things.”
But it is so true. Your home business prospect and also even family and friends can be NEGATIVE over nothing. You can take guidance of mysunrise over this.
But that is not just innate to network marketing. Every entrepreneur puts up with negheads almost on a daily basis when they are starting their business. In a Fortune magazine survey in 2001, they asked multi millionaire business owners what was their number one obstacle their first 12 months. Check these out fivebough .
Over 80% of them put friends and family. And of course prospects would fail in that category as well in a home business. It is like you just want to say to the negheads and naysayers:
“There they go again.”
One more time.
Friends and family spouting off Negative comments, input, and opinions about your home business and your MLM future. You can get so mad sometimes that you just want to walk away and say, “forget it” r something worse. You stare at them and wonder what to say or do, but yet the words of reply only get caught in your throat.
This is a battle yu will not win. People that are convinced of something do not want the facts. Been there.
You may attempt to play some form of “verbal judo,” or “word wrestling” but they have you in a head lock with their words and questions and you just slink back into the chair and can feel so defeated and dejected.
But here is the worst part and the most hurtful part to their negative comments:
They actually are starting to make sense with their logic. Or at least seem to.
You stand or sit there and just take the negative vomit.. And that is what it is spewing all over you and your home business . And you just wish you knew what to say. But you remain silent. It does make you think and wonder. And your mind starts to develop questions that can kill your home based business. And you actually start to ask these questions:
“Could they actually be right?”
“Are they telling me the truth?”
“Could they actually have a point here?”
“What if they really ARE right?”
And the doubt and the fear slowly start creeping in, and you start to question your own decisions, actions, and future.
This happens everyday in the land of home businesses and network marketing . Negative people start to try and stop you because of their own fears and insecurities and many times- they are very successful.
But it is time that cam to an abrupt halt.
Understand this:
Negative well meaning people — are still — negative. (Read that again.)
They may mean well, but there has never been any Success accomplished in any home business with a negative focus and a negative language.
So what do you do?
Here are 3 things that can say to help neutralize their negative comments when they appear out of their mouths:
1) “I appreciate that comment, but let me ask you a question: Who in the world sold you on THAT?”
2) “Thanks for sharing, but what you just said does not match up at all to what I have researched about this company and products. Would you like to see a little of my research?”
3)”That is an interesting way to look at it. There are several other ways to look at that I have found as well. Let me explain…”
And there is also a secret to doing this:
BOLD CONFIDENCE.
You KNOW that you KNOW that you KNOW and NOTHING can shake that Knowing that you are doing a great thing and will Succeed massively.
It is called the single most powerful “velvet hammer” when you answer a negative prospect. Confidence tells the negative MLM prospect that you understand that they have an “opinion” but you are not buying what they said. They will FEEL that in your words.
Most negative prospects are just that way: negative.
So you have a decision to make:
Are you going to let the negative mlm prospect influence or even dominate your business, or are you going to continue with confidence and not worry about the naysayers. the negheads, the not so hots, and the never will be’s?
It will determine much about your future success in your MLM and Network marketing business. These people have an influence over you and you may not realize it. They can either influence you to slow down or even quit, or influence you to prove them wrong and to go out and CRUSH IT.
I would suggest to ignore the negheads that are “eggheads” and move on with your business. They will NEVER pay a bill you have or really have anything positive to say about your business. Accept it and move on. You will be so glad you did as that is one of the biggest secrets to MLM network marketing and home business success.
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blessings…doug firebaugh
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