MLM Training- What Causes The Fear of REJECTION?

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training has plenty of fear-if you allow that to be a part of your business.

Fear of Rejection is one of the most powerful in MLM and even in social media and social networking. I have seen this for the last 25 years as well as the last 6 in social media.

There are many causes to the Fear of Rejection, but I have found that you really cannot conquer it until you know the SOURCE or REASON for the fear.

I am sure that you have felt that knot in your stomach when thinking about calling someone. I have felt it before and it is a VERY uncool feeling. I remember that feeling when one person in particular I called. I thought I was going to toss some cookies I was so nervous.

The Cause of the Fear of Rejection I have studied over time and have found through research that there are 7 main causes:

1 Not Being Approved of

This is the biggie. Many people in MLM and Home business want people to approve of what they are doing, and approve of them. This one is one that must be dealt with as “approval-itis” kills many a home business.

2) Feeling of Being Abandoned Again

Feeling of abandonment is another issue. Without getting into a psychological discussion, this cause can be crippling to someone calling people as they do not want to feel like the person is going to leave their business.

3) Doing something wrong – self conscious

Many distributors/consultants have what Icall the “No No” syndrome. many people ina home business think that they are doing something wrong. What happens when we are babies, we hear the word NO 80 times more than the word YES. We are programmed for that word, and mindset.

“NO NO! You will get burned if you touch that!”

“No NO you will fall down the stairs if you get too close!”

“NO NO you will get shocked if you put your fingers in that!”

NO = You are doing something WRONG.

And many people in network marketing still struggle with that syndrome.

4) Feeling inadequate Again

The feeling of inadequacy seems to be another big problem with folks. They feel they are “not enough” to succeed in a home business. So they never call anyone because if they do, then their “lacking” will be discovered. This is quite a strong issue with people who have done MLM before.

5) Reinforcement of Self Doubts

We live in a Doubt Focused world. That is just the way it is. But if you are going to succeed you must live in your own FAITH focused world. We doubt because of what has been spoken into us and over us by others. This makes us doubt ourselves when we call people, and thus, we do not.

6) Previous life experiences of rejection

Rejection through life is a biggie as well. I experienced this in life growing up, but was blessed to get beyond it my freshman year in college. What has happened in your life as far as rejection cannot be changed- but you CAN change how you respond to those memories. You can either control them, or let them control you.

7) The emotions and mental pictures you have to deal with.

We all have mental picture and emotions we deal with on a daily basis in a hone business. They are either pictures of Success or struggle. Your life always moves towards what you have pictured in your mind. If you see your business struggling, it will. If you see your business succeeding, you will. That is up to the movies that you play daily in your mental theater.

Fear of Rejection can be conquered, and easily, if you identify what is the ROOT CAUSE of it. This fear can stop you working social media. It can stop you working the phones.  It can stop you working this business.

Define YOUR cause of fear of rejection if you struggle with that and in another post, I will give you some powerful ways to overcome that in your MLM and home business.

Powerful Training Resource to move you ahead of your fears and your Doubts- Getting ready for W.A.R. (Between Your Ears)

blesings…doug firebaugh

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MLM – The ONE Question You ALWAYS Ask in MLM Recruiting?


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for your home based business requires the right stuff.

It requires words and questions that PULL people towards you. I have always called it “PULL Conversation.”

It is a powerful way to work in social media, face to face, public meetings, in home parties, and just over a webinar or cell phone.

 PULL Recruiting is a powerful way to build a team.

In today’s world, microwave speed communication is standard. In the news it is called ‘sound bytes” and that is what they are. They speak quick, a couple of sentences, if that. We all communicate today differently than we did even 15 years ago because of technology and culture.

That is why that you need a powerful  “Stopper Question.”

This is a question in home business recruiting that STOPS the person for a second- and makes them think. In today’s world you must get their attention and a Stopper Question does.  It has IMPACT and it says that this not just another communication.

There are many many MLM home business recruiting tactics out today that have proven to be successful.

There are tactics for social media and social networking. I have been blessed to teach a lot of them and learned a lot from other folks too!

There are home business recruiting tactics in party plans, and I have done a lot of work with those kinds of companies.

There are internet driven recruiting tactics and we  have been blessed to have a lot of success online. There are a TON of good teachers out there as well that train on how to do this.

But no matter the style of recruiting and sponsoring new people in your home business, there is ONE QUESTION that you always ask the prospect.

And surprisingly many do not.

MLM recruiting in home business is based on finding people are are:


That means they are looking for something in life that is not there currently. Many people often do not even realize they are looking for something until presented new possibilities for their life.

Sometimes, you have to “scratch that itch” if you will for that Looking to start. And when you start talking about lifestyle and success they have never experienced, it can start them looking your way very quickly.

So with that understanding, what is the ONE QUESTION in MLM recruiting you should ALWAYS ask no matter whether it is social media offline?

“Just curious…I asked my self this question recently, and it really shifted things for the better  in my life. It’s a great question. What are you looking to improve or increase in your life – if you could?”        <Answer>   

“Tell me about it.” And then LISTEN.

“Let me share with you what I recently ran across that has really helped shift some things for the better in my life…”

Notice I did NOT say the word “change,” but “Improve” and “Increase.”

This one question I have taught for years for social media, online as well as offline, and there is a reason why it is so magnetic in mlm recruiting:

People are drawn to those kinds of people that are looking to do better, and want to help others do the same SINCERELY. Your question MUST come across like you are sincerely interested and care to know.

I cannot explain in this brief article why this works so well as that is a much longer write, but I can tell you…IT DOES WORK no matter the communication arena.

Whether on facebook, twitter, or LinkedIn, ask this one PULLING Question and you will find your prospect moving towards you in the conversation because in your home business, you have asked THE ONE QUESTION that draws people into your MLM recruiting conversation.

And their answer will let you know where you need to take the conversation to start talking to them about their own home business in mlm recruiting.

For a powerful training resource on improving your recruiting ratio amazingly, click here for a look:  MLM Recruiting Words that PULL People In

blessings…doug firebaugh

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